Helping the children to understand their differences can be beneficial. The child with special needs probably needs to understand why he or she has different abilities and different expectations of behaviour; however, they may find having a more able sibling stimulating and a source of motivation. Explain to the child without special needs why his or her sibling is treated differently and behaves differently; there may be mixed feelings towards the child with special needs and jealousy over the extra attention. Caring for a child with special needs can be challenging particularly if they are one of multiples. However, it is also important to celebrate the individuality of a child with special needs, as they will bring many rewarding and special moments to your family.
Twins Trust runs a support group for parents who are bringing up multiples where one or more has special needs. Email [email protected] for more information on how the group and how to join.
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